Topic: Managing the Holidays - the guilt and the chaos
2015-12-04 12:27:29
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This is a post shared on behalf of Lived Experience Member, Dawng: "Xmas is an emotionally exhausting time of year anyway, without having a parent with dementia. The LTC home says the residents get all out of sorts with the change in activities and the commotion, wishing to keep the residents’ routines the same. Families (in my case) driven by guilt to include my Mom in all the festivities ….. even though she would be none the wiser. I wrestle with bringing my Mom to my home …. Wheelchair bound and needs assistance with toileting, usually just as we sit down to dinner, no matter how I try to pre-plan. :) Feel like I’m being selfish if I don’t include her. Plus feel like I’m being judged ….. I guess its all just about the guilt. Dementia causes incredible guilt to families. One man warned me, not to let the guilt get to you." |
2015-12-04 12:27:29 |
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So glad you shared this Dawng. It totally sums up what friends and family experience during holidays and special occasions. The guilt and grief combined with the expectations and desire to make it all "picture perfect" can be overwhelming. |
2015-12-04 12:35:29 |
