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Topic: Possible dementia.
2016-05-26 01:15:08
Anabell Posts: 2
Joined: 2016-05-26
My mother is 65 years old. I surmise that she has serious memory problem. I think she suffers from dementia. She has become more obstinate and uncompromising. She has a very poor memory. She keeps forgetting things.Sometimes her reasoning is 0 and keeps arguing with people.She is not ready to learn new things and gets very stressed most of the time. insisted her that we visit a doctor but she wouldn't agree. Problem is, her elder sister suffers from dementia and is in a nursing home at Prestige care ( ). I fear whether this disease is hereditary. Her attitude and her way of behavior makes me feel that she is showing initial signs of dementia.

2016-05-26 01:15:08
Chickadee Posts: 1
Joined: 2016-06-10
Iím sorry about your mother. Getting her to the doctor is a crucial and difficult first step. Itís important to get a diagnosis so the appropriate treatment and support can be put in place for your mother. I know from experience how hard this is.

In my case I waited until my mother had a doctorís appointment for something else, privately notified her doctor of my concerns before the appointment and had him take it from there. Iím not advocating deceit and I still attempt to make my mother a part of all decisions regarding her care but unfortunately, there will be many times when you have to override her feelings in favor of her well-being.

I strongly encourage you to reach out to your local Alzheimerís Society ASAP. Even before you go to the doctor. These knowledgeable and compassionate folks will not only help you both navigate this journey but also provide YOU with the support you will need as a caregiver.

On a more personal note, I understand your own fears. My motherís father had Alzheimerís. Not a day goes by that I donít think about this. I try to keep those fears at bay by using my ongoing experience with my mother as an opportunity to influence how I live my own life; today and in the future.

2016-06-13 12:20:38
Sharon Osvald Posts: 120
Joined: 0000-00-00
Chickadee, you said it perfectly. The doctor really is the first step for getting a proper diagnoses, referring your parents on to other supports. If you are concerned about behaviours, you can ask your doctor to refer you to a psycho-geriatric psychiatrist (like Providence Care). Also, ask your doctor if they are part of a Memory Clinic - another route for building a strong supportive care team.
AND YES, the Alzheimer Society is so much more than just research or sitting around complaining together. The Support and Education staff will give you real resources and if you attend a support group, you will find some great ideas for how to cope, how to navigate the system and how to live well with dementia. If you ever need to talk, send me an email at and I'd be happy to set up a phone call.

2016-06-20 16:02:46
Edward Charette Posts: 3
Joined: 2016-09-08
This is all about dementia. Get her to a consultant. Dont wait for her consent. Convince and get her there

2016-09-08 07:57:45